BODY WISDOM

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This morning I had the most beautiful phone session with a client that has a standing once-a-month appointment. I find these appointments are almost alway fortuitous and timely, and this certainly was as she had been experiencing quite a bit of anxiety and discomfort for a few days. As we proceeded it became apparent that her sense of responsibility for other's emotional states was taking a toll. As many of us, she's a"fixer, healer, helper," which is an excellent quality unless it's out of balance and a drain of our energy. As with many of these experiences they bring up the old patterns of making our parents happy so we can be happy, and making our spouse happy and healed so we can be as well. Impossible, and we keep trying until we understand that it 's their job not ours, it's their work to do and our job is to continue to do "our" work. But, I digress.

The more we dialoged, I realized it would be most beneficial to stop talking and go "inside." Using the modality of Bio-Spiritual Focusing, I asked her to close her eyes and scan her body for any sensation it might be holding. After a short period of silence, with tears in her voice she shared with me that her heart "felt like it was crushed and there was an elephant sitting on it." Asking her to put her hand on her heart and allowing that place a gentle space I asked the Heart to express itself and to let her know what it was holding. After a time of quiet the heart spoke, "you are taking on too much, please look at what you can let go of and be patient with me." And she sat quietly with that wisdom, and I could feel her energy begin to move, and asked if there was something else. A memory of supper with her friend who was feeling low and wanted to vent came into focus and she realized she felt sad and suffocated. I asked her if she could imagine just "being" with her friend and just "witnessing" not having to "do" anything but hold space for her, not fix, help or heal her. As she sat with this image, her heart spoke and it felt "radiant, relieved, open and light." Not having to "do" or "be" anything to fix her friend was such a relief, her heart sweetly shared with her that this was a turning point for her. Having the experience of your body's wisdom is a gift, it is often much wiser than the mind/ego self. The body holds your troubles AND your answers.. Bio-Spiritual Focusing is one of the most loving, gentle and efficient ways of gaining entry into your BODY WISDOM.

Rev. Alexis Cunningham

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