The Universal "Yes"

The Universal Yes…

It is our No that creates our suffering and does not allow us to be happy.

Any time I say no, I am resisting, judging, or arguing with my reality; I am creating unhappiness for myself. Every time I have an expectation, a need for a person or thing to create lasting happiness I am setting myself up for sadness, anger, frustration, and much more. Any time I am in resistance to what is happening in the moment, I have stepped out of the innate happiness that lives within me, and am waiting for an outside circumstance to once again create happiness for me. That person or thing may temporarily create happiness, but will inevitably fade and then my search for the outside happiness begins again.

I have endured, survived, and lived through beyond challenging events this lifetime so far. The loss of Seneca (my son) was beyond painful, there are no words to describe the sadness and broken heart of my not wanting to accept his illness and death created. Living through and beyond this loss taught me there is nothing I cannot endure, and once again, be happy. Since that time I have come to know that everything in life comes and goes, and when I attach to, or feel I “need” any relationship, job, money or any external thing my happiness is now dependent on and in the hands of someone or some thing that WILL change or lose it’s allure, and because of this dependence I will suffer unhappiness. And if I am not grounded in myself and reality, my search will once again begin to find that someone, some thing to “make” me happy.

I have “fallen in love” and believed, and hoped that particular happiness would last forever, and I’m sure my partners did as well. Being human, we cannot be consistently what our partner “needs” in order to be happy, and it is definitely a burden that we have placed on one another. We are changeable beings with history’s being played out, we can be happy, confused, angry, joyous, frustrated, up, down, sad, and a thousand other emotions, but we attach to the unreal expectation that we are to make one another happy. Impossible. We will more loving and caring if we take this burden off one another.

Our continued happiness is dependent on staying open to change, unexpected events, and not “needing’ anyone or anything to be our reason. This does not mean we don’t want and enjoy relationships, a good job, shiny things or whatever our heart’s desire, but we carry a deep knowing; this is not the true source of our happiness. The true source is the Universal Yes to whatever is manifesting in our lives at the moment, and a connection to ourselves, our hearts and who we really are. It is the ultimate spiritual practice.

Alexis Cunningham 3/27/2021